I retired effective 11/30/25. But I had to keep the office through 12/31/25 in order to dispose of the furniture, file cabinets, electronics and accumulated stuff. So, the planned full retirement date was 12/31/25. Except, that pesky tree decided to crash into our house on 12/24/25. Then we were in a hotel for five weeks. We finally moved into a temporary rental on 1/28/26, and after a week of resting and getting organized, we are now finally retired. Which got me to thinking about the subjects listed in the title of this post.
I retired last year for two reasons. My wife, who worked with me, wanted us to retire by age 75, which she is now, and I will be in several months. The other reason is that my lifelong orthopedic problems got worse with age, and I found it increasingly difficult to keep up with the workload. With regards to the topics in this post, I decided to talk to others who had retired, and were in their 70's. I also emailed my Rabbi. And I read some excerpts in the book "Rebbe," about Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson, who was the last leader of the Chabad Lubavitch branch of Judaism (from 1951 until his death in 1994). The book is by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin, and is filled with the wisdom of the Rebbe. It is a worthwhile read by people of all religions.
When you see Chabad Houses all over the country and even all over the world, that is substantially because of the efforts of the Rebbe. But back to the topic. When he turned 70, some people advised the Rebbe to slow down. He was known to work, and consult with others seeking guidance, late into the night and into the next morning. He replied that not only would he not retire, he would set himself a goal of opening 70 new Chabad Houses. The Rebbe: "I don't understand that word 'retirement.' It's not in my vocabulary." And: "How can a person even think of retiring from life?"
One friend in his seventies has been retired for nine years, and described retirement as "one of the best periods of my life." He is basically healthy, but a couple of years ago needed a heart surgery. He has always been physically active. In retirement, he increased his outdoor activities. He also does more reading and more traveling. He has renewed acquaintances with people he has known, via text and email. He does not enjoy talking with others as much as some (I) do.
I asked people if they had experienced a change in their spirituality. And, if work had been their "mission" in life until retirement, if they had a new mission. This individual advised he started Torah study classes. When asked if he had a new mission, he replied: "Become a better, wiser, more giving person. Have deep, honest, loving, supportive relationships with my family and friends." He relayed that, with retirement, he lost much of his sense of competitiveness, intensity and ambition.
Another friend is semi-retired. He sees old age as a good time of life, except for the health issues. With regards to having a mission, it is to spend more time in Israel. Two of his kids live there. And he simply has a better feeling being there, in the Holy Land. He also said that he is "spiritually oriented," and is a "very strong believer."
Another friend found that he enjoys walking and doing jigsaw puzzles. He has lunch with friends, goes to concerts, watches TV (and likes to watch sports - which I happen to know). He has his share of health problems, but basically feels good. As for having a mission, he says he takes it one day at a time.
Another friend, has not been that thrilled in retirement. He did not describe having many hobbies. But he does some work for the attorney who took over his practice. And he is doing more reading. He likes walking his dog (a big beautiful dog). and helps his kids by watching the grandkids. Otherwise, he did not express having any other particular mission.
I absolutely loved my Rabbi's idea of retirement: "As long as we have life, we have a mission. We never retire from our mission in this world." If your mission was work, understandable for most of us, did anything replace that mission in retirement? The Jewish people, of course, understand that G-d gave us a mission - to be a light unto the nations.
(More on this topic, mortality and my take in Part II.)